Some writers could stand to do a
bit more research before they set up their marriage and wedding customs. . . .
For one thing, very, very, very few cultures allowed the couple to meet, decide to marry, and do it. And the alternative is
not an arranged marriage where the bride and bridegroom have no say. I saw a movie taking place in (allegedly)
ancien regime France, where a young man was in love, and so he was going off to ask the girl to marry him, and his father sent him off with his mother's ring. Not going to happen. Assuming you wanted to do something so scandalous as marry for love (and there was a scandal in
ancien regime France about a couple who fell in love after they married, but then, love is blind), what he would have done is go to his father, and plead his case. Given that his father was agreeable, what would happen next is that the father would go to the girl's father and say I think our two young folks would make a suitable match, they would duke out the financial stuff -- and the financial stuff gets very short shrift from many writers -- and then they can bring off the match.
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